How can I fully submit to my husband and mind my manners so he can stop cheating on me?

your thinking is all wrong, your blame you for his cheating and its not about you, nothing you can do not even changing yourself will stop a cheating man. don't chase after him anymore, at least keep your dignity. i wanted to slap my ex husbands girlfriend to, i wanted to chase her down and go to where they were but it occurred to me that it just wasn't worth loosing my dignity over and maybe getting thrown in jail and getting a record, i too was in the health care field and i could have lost my position. having to watch a an constantly and Monitor his every move will cause you anxiety and pain. plus if he doesn't contribute financially and you have to support him it sees like a total waste of time.